親愛的姊妹們:
已經進入第四天了，加油！。就鼓勵你每日寫下你的心得，我們在周二聚會中可以分享及禱告。
以下是今天的挑戰：
第四日 愛是善解人意的 (Love is Thoughtful)
¨ 經文: 神啊，你的意念向我何等寶貴，其數何等眾多！我若數點，比海沙更多。
詩篇139:17-18
¨ 愛的行動： 在今天，特意找機會問問你的配偶(或家人)過得如何，你能為他做些什麼?
(Have no agenda other than asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.)
¨ 信息摘要：” Love thinks. … It keeps busy in thought, knowing that loving thoughts precede loving actions. … When you first fell in love, being thoughtful came quite naturally. …You honestly confessed, “I can’t stop thinking about you.” …But for most couples, things begin to change after marriage. …You drift into focusing on your job, your friends, your problems, your personal desires, yourself. After a while, you unintentionally begin to ignore the needs of your mate. …”Today’s our anniversary?” “Why didn’t you include me in that decision?” “Don’t you ever think about anyone but yourself?” … Thoughtlessness is a silent enemy to a loving relationship. … Men struggle with thoughtfulness more than women. A man can focus like a laser on one thing and forget the rest of the world. …A woman, … is more multi-conscious, able to maintain an amazing awareness of many factors at once. She can talk on the phone, cook, know where the kids are in the house, and wonder why her husband isn’t helping…all simultaneously. Adding to this, a woman also thinks relationally. When she works on something, she is cognizant of all the people who are somehow connected to it. … these differences also create opportunities for misunderstanding. Men, … tend to think in headlines and say exactly what they mean. … But women think and speak between the lines. They tent to hint. A man often has to listen for what is implied if he wants to get the full meaning. If a couple doesn’t understand this about one another, the fallout can result in endless disagreements. He’s frustrated wondering why she speaks in riddles and doesn’t just come out and say things. She’s frustrated wondering why he’s so inconsiderate and doesn’t add two and two together and just figure it out. … Love requires thoughtfulness – on both sides – the kind that builds bridges through the constructive combination of patience, kindness, and selflessness. … A husband should listen to his wife and learn to be considerate of her unspoken messages. A wife should learn to communicate truthfully and not say one thing while meaning another. …Love thinks before speaking. … When was the last time you spent a few minutes thinking about how you could better understand and demonstrate love to your spouse? What immediate need can you meet? What’s the next event (anniversary, birthday, holiday) you could be preparing for? Great marriages come from great thinking.
_____ 若你做到今日的挑戰，在此處打勾
What did you learn about yourself or your spouse by doing this today? How could this become a more natural, routine, and genuinely helpful part of your lifestyle?
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day 3
親愛的姊妹們:
已經進入第三天了，覺得如何呢？別忘記要常常尋求神的恩典，祂是我們的幫助。就鼓勵你每日寫下你的心得，我們在周二聚會中可以分享及禱告。
以下是今天的挑戰：
第三日 愛是不自私
¨ 經文: 愛弟兄，要彼此親熱；恭敬人，要彼此推讓。 羅馬書12:10
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor. Romans 12:10
¨ 愛的行動： 除了前兩天的行動外，在今天請用實際的東西﹝送一個東西)向你的配偶及家人表達說“我想你”。
¨ 信息摘要：” We live in a world that is enamored with “self”. The culture around us teaches us to focus on our appearance, feelings, and personal desires as the top priority. …If there were ever a word that basically means the opposite of love, it is selfishness. …Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves. …Why do we have such low standards for ourselves but high expectations for our mate? The answer is a painful pill to swallow. We are all selfish. When a husband puts his interests, desires, and priorities in front of his wife, that’s sign of selfishness. When a wife constantly complains about the time and energy she spends meeting the needs of her husband, that’s sign of selfishness. But love “does not seek its own” (I Corinthians 13:5). …even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain bragging rights or receive a reward. If you do even a good thing to deceitfully manipulate your husband or wife, you are still being selfish. The bottom line is that you either make decisions out of love for others or love for yourself. Love is never satisfied except in the welfare of others. …putting the happiness of your partner about your own. …you don’t negate the happiness of your spouse so you can enjoy it yourself…. Love also leads to inner joy. …If you find it hard to sacrifice your own desires to benefit your spouse, then you may have a deeper problem with selfishness than you want to admit. Ask yourself these questions:
· Do I truly want what’s best for my husband or wife?
· Do I want them to feel loved by me?
· Do they believe I have their best interests in mind?
· Do they see me as looking out for myself first?
…Remember, your marriage partner also has the challenge of loving a selfish person. So determine to be the first to demonstrate real love to them, with your eyes wide open. … (Philippians 2:3)
_____ 若你做到今日的挑戰，在此處打勾
你選擇送甚麼給你的配偶? 他收到的反應如何?
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已經進入第三天了，覺得如何呢？別忘記要常常尋求神的恩典，祂是我們的幫助。就鼓勵你每日寫下你的心得，我們在周二聚會中可以分享及禱告。
以下是今天的挑戰：
第三日 愛是不自私
¨ 經文: 愛弟兄，要彼此親熱；恭敬人，要彼此推讓。 羅馬書12:10
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor. Romans 12:10
¨ 愛的行動： 除了前兩天的行動外，在今天請用實際的東西﹝送一個東西)向你的配偶及家人表達說“我想你”。
¨ 信息摘要：” We live in a world that is enamored with “self”. The culture around us teaches us to focus on our appearance, feelings, and personal desires as the top priority. …If there were ever a word that basically means the opposite of love, it is selfishness. …Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. It is a trait we hate in other people but justify in ourselves. …Why do we have such low standards for ourselves but high expectations for our mate? The answer is a painful pill to swallow. We are all selfish. When a husband puts his interests, desires, and priorities in front of his wife, that’s sign of selfishness. When a wife constantly complains about the time and energy she spends meeting the needs of her husband, that’s sign of selfishness. But love “does not seek its own” (I Corinthians 13:5). …even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain bragging rights or receive a reward. If you do even a good thing to deceitfully manipulate your husband or wife, you are still being selfish. The bottom line is that you either make decisions out of love for others or love for yourself. Love is never satisfied except in the welfare of others. …putting the happiness of your partner about your own. …you don’t negate the happiness of your spouse so you can enjoy it yourself…. Love also leads to inner joy. …If you find it hard to sacrifice your own desires to benefit your spouse, then you may have a deeper problem with selfishness than you want to admit. Ask yourself these questions:
· Do I truly want what’s best for my husband or wife?
· Do I want them to feel loved by me?
· Do they believe I have their best interests in mind?
· Do they see me as looking out for myself first?
…Remember, your marriage partner also has the challenge of loving a selfish person. So determine to be the first to demonstrate real love to them, with your eyes wide open. … (Philippians 2:3)
_____ 若你做到今日的挑戰，在此處打勾
你選擇送甚麼給你的配偶? 他收到的反應如何?
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day 2
親愛的姊妹們:
不知第一日愛的挑戰如何？鼓勵你每日寫下你的心得，我們在周二聚會中可以分享及禱告。
以下是今天的挑戰：
第二日 愛是有恩慈
¨ 經文: 並要以恩慈相待，存憐憫的心，彼此饒恕，正如神在基督裡饒恕了我們一樣。…以弗所書4:32
¨ 愛的行動： 今天除了學習忍耐，禁止你的口舌不說負面的話之外，請向你的家人主動做一件有恩慈的的事。
¨ 信息摘要：” Kindness is love in action. If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance. …Love makes you kinds. And kindness makes you likeable. … (Proverbs 3:3-4) …let’s break kindness down into four basic core ingredients:
· Gentleness. …never being unnecessarily harsh. …be sensitive, tender. …speak the truth in love.
· Helpfulness. … Being kind means you meet the needs of the moment.
· Willingness. … Kindness inspires you to be agreeable. Instead of being obstinate, reluctant, or stubborn, you cooperate, you stay flexible. Rather than complaining and making excuses, you look for reasons to compromise and accommodate. …willing to listen first rather than demand one’s way.
· Initiative. … Kindness thinks ahead, then takes the first step. …The kind husband or wife will be the one who greets first, smiles first, serves first, and forgives first. They do not require the other to get his or her act together before showing love. …you see the need, then make your move. First.
“It is difficult to demonstrate love when you feel little to no motivation. But love in its truest sense is not based on feelings. Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward. You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness. “ (from The Love Dare)
不知第一日愛的挑戰如何？鼓勵你每日寫下你的心得，我們在周二聚會中可以分享及禱告。
以下是今天的挑戰：
第二日 愛是有恩慈
¨ 經文: 並要以恩慈相待，存憐憫的心，彼此饒恕，正如神在基督裡饒恕了我們一樣。…以弗所書4:32
¨ 愛的行動： 今天除了學習忍耐，禁止你的口舌不說負面的話之外，請向你的家人主動做一件有恩慈的的事。
¨ 信息摘要：” Kindness is love in action. If patience is how love reacts in order to minimize a negative circumstance, kindness is how love acts to maximize a positive circumstance. …Love makes you kinds. And kindness makes you likeable. … (Proverbs 3:3-4) …let’s break kindness down into four basic core ingredients:
· Gentleness. …never being unnecessarily harsh. …be sensitive, tender. …speak the truth in love.
· Helpfulness. … Being kind means you meet the needs of the moment.
· Willingness. … Kindness inspires you to be agreeable. Instead of being obstinate, reluctant, or stubborn, you cooperate, you stay flexible. Rather than complaining and making excuses, you look for reasons to compromise and accommodate. …willing to listen first rather than demand one’s way.
· Initiative. … Kindness thinks ahead, then takes the first step. …The kind husband or wife will be the one who greets first, smiles first, serves first, and forgives first. They do not require the other to get his or her act together before showing love. …you see the need, then make your move. First.
“It is difficult to demonstrate love when you feel little to no motivation. But love in its truest sense is not based on feelings. Rather, love determines to show thoughtful actions even when there seems to be no reward. You will never learn to love until you learn to demonstrate kindness. “ (from The Love Dare)
day 1
第一日 愛是恆久忍耐
¨ 經文: 凡事謙虛，溫柔，忍耐，用愛心互相寬容…以弗所書4:2
¨ 愛的行動： 今日的挑戰其實很容易，就是學習忍耐，禁止你的口舌不說負面的話。若是快忍不住，請選擇不說話。暫時的沉默好過於脫口說出你會後悔的話。
¨ 信息摘要：” Love works. …It always does what is best for others and can empower us to face the greatest of problems. …Love is built on two pillars that best define what it is. Those pillars are patience and kindness. …Love will inspire you to become a patient person. When you choose to be patient, you respond in a positive way to a negative situation. …Patience brings an internal calm during an external storm. …No one likes to be around an impatient person. It causes you to overreact in angry, foolish, and regrettable ways. …It is a choice to control your emotions rather than allowing your emotions to control you, and shows discretion instead of returning evil for evil. …Anger is usually caused when the strong desire for something is mixed with disappointment or grief. …It is often an emotional reaction that flows out of our own selfishness, foolishness, or evil motives. …Patience, however, makes us wise. It does not rush to judgment but listens to what the other person is saying….(and) and wait to see the whole picture before passing judgment. (Proverbs 14:29) …a lack of patience will turn your home into a war zone, the practice of patience will foster peace and quiet. (Proverbs 15:18)…Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human. …When a mistake is made, ii chooses to give them more time than they deserve to correct it. Few of us do patience very well, and none of us do it naturally. But wise men and women will pursue it as an essential ingredient to their marriage relationships. …The Love Dare journey is a process, and the first thing you must resolve to possess is patience. Think of it as a marathon, not a sprint. But it’s a race worth running.” (from The Love Dare)
¨ 經文: 凡事謙虛，溫柔，忍耐，用愛心互相寬容…以弗所書4:2
¨ 愛的行動： 今日的挑戰其實很容易，就是學習忍耐，禁止你的口舌不說負面的話。若是快忍不住，請選擇不說話。暫時的沉默好過於脫口說出你會後悔的話。
¨ 信息摘要：” Love works. …It always does what is best for others and can empower us to face the greatest of problems. …Love is built on two pillars that best define what it is. Those pillars are patience and kindness. …Love will inspire you to become a patient person. When you choose to be patient, you respond in a positive way to a negative situation. …Patience brings an internal calm during an external storm. …No one likes to be around an impatient person. It causes you to overreact in angry, foolish, and regrettable ways. …It is a choice to control your emotions rather than allowing your emotions to control you, and shows discretion instead of returning evil for evil. …Anger is usually caused when the strong desire for something is mixed with disappointment or grief. …It is often an emotional reaction that flows out of our own selfishness, foolishness, or evil motives. …Patience, however, makes us wise. It does not rush to judgment but listens to what the other person is saying….(and) and wait to see the whole picture before passing judgment. (Proverbs 14:29) …a lack of patience will turn your home into a war zone, the practice of patience will foster peace and quiet. (Proverbs 15:18)…Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human. …When a mistake is made, ii chooses to give them more time than they deserve to correct it. Few of us do patience very well, and none of us do it naturally. But wise men and women will pursue it as an essential ingredient to their marriage relationships. …The Love Dare journey is a process, and the first thing you must resolve to possess is patience. Think of it as a marathon, not a sprint. But it’s a race worth running.” (from The Love Dare)
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