day 5

親愛的姊妹們:
哇，第五天了，加油！。就鼓勵你每日寫下你的心得，我們在周二聚會中可以分享及禱告。
以下是今天的挑戰：

第五日 愛是不張狂 (Love is not Rude)

¨ 經文: 清晨起來，大聲給朋友祝福的就算是咒詛他。箴言27:14

¨ 愛的行動：在今天請特意問問你的配偶，有那三件事會讓他覺得不舒服。不要攻擊他或為自己辯護，只要單單問他的觀點。

¨ 信息摘要：” Nothing irritates others as quickly as being rude. … To be rude is to act unbecoming, embarrassing, or irritating. In marriage, this could be a foul mouth, poor table manners, or a habit of making sarcastic quips. …Rude behavior may seem insignificant to the person doing it, but it’s unpleasant to those on the receiving end. … When a man is driven by love, he intentionally behaves in a way that’s more pleasant for his wife to be around. If she desires to love him, she purposefully avoids things that frustrate him or cause him discomfort. The bottom line is that genuine love minds its manners. …Good manners express to your wife or husband, “I value you enough to exercise some self-control around you. …” When you allow love to change your behavior – even in the smallest of ways – you restore an atmosphere of honor to your relationship. …There are two main reasons why people are rude: ignorance and selfishness. … You know the rules, but you can be blind to how you break them or be too self-centered to care. In fact, you may not realize how unpleasant you can be to live with. …Test yourself with these questions:
· How does your spouse feel about the way you speak and act around them?
· How does your behavior affect your mate’s sense of worth and self-esteem?
· Would your husband or wife say you’re a blessing, or that you’re condescending and embarrassing?
…Do you wish your spouse would quit doing the things that bother you? Then it’s time to stop doing the things that bother them. Will you be thoughtful and loving enough to discover and avoid the behavior that causes life to be unpleasant for your mate? ..Here are three guiding principles when it comes to practicing etiquette in your marriage:
· Guard the Golden Rule. (Luke 6:31)
· No double standards. Be as considerate to your spouse as you are to strangers and coworkers.
· Honor request. Consider what your husband or wife already asked you to do or not do. If in doubt, then ask.

_____ 若你做到今日的挑戰，在此處打勾
What things did your spouse point out about you that need your attention? How did you handle hearing it? What do you plan to do to improve these area?
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